One of the hardest challenges you will ever face in life is
breaking up with your best friend. Everyone talks about the pain of heartbreak
between a couple but we never discuss the pain of heartbreak when losing the
person you once called your best friend. A best friend is someone who knows all
of your secrets and who still loves you unconditionally despite your flaws. A
best friend is the one who is going to be there for you before you date that
boy and afterwards. And sometimes you have to break up with them because it's
what is best for you.
Nobody wants to break up with their best friend. If life
was perfect, people would stay best friends til the end of time. Life, however,
does not work that way. When I was younger, I had a best friend and it was her
who pulled away and decided she no longer wanted to be friends. I still wish
her well in life I just know I’m no longer in her journey. Our paths were
supposed to disconnect at some point even though we never thought that would
happen. As we grow, we learn and that causes change. Sometimes you find
yourself no longer fitting with people you thought would be in your life until
the end of time. And that is okay, because not all adventures were meant to
last forever. The worst thing you could ever do, however, is break up with a
friend and not respect them. This person has spent years by your side. You owe
it to your friendship and both of yall’s past selves to treat each other with
respect. That person was still a huge part of your life even if they are no
longer meant to be in it.
Sometimes we will be pulled to break up with our friends
because the other person wants to end the friendship. But sometimes it is us
who needs to do the breaking up. People change. The only thing constant in the world
is change. So, it is no surprise that one day you may no longer get along with
your best friend. It's okay to be the one doing the break up. But respect them.
Treat them with kindness. Distant yourself but never start a fight or try to
hate them because at one point you were best friends. You did have plans to one
day be roommates and be in each other’s weddings. But now, you have to do what
is best for you. I'm a firm believer in if you need a break with a friend,
distant yourself. Don't fight. Because distance means there is a chance you can
always rekindle the friendship way into the future. We are all human and we all
make mistakes. We all put the blame on someone else and when you try to blame
your mistakes on a person and leave, only to find out they weren't the source
of your problems, you cannot go back if you ended things rough. People tend to
not be so kind when you hurt them first.
Do what is best for you. Even if that means breaking up
with a friend. But remember them when they were there for you. And don't forget
who talked to you all night during spring break because you were simply bored.
If you're gonna break up with a best friend, prepare for it to hurt. That person
meant something to you for a period of your life. Breakups are ever easy, but
sometimes they’re necessary. Make your decisions wisely.
