It's Not Me, It's You.

One of the hardest challenges you will ever face in life is breaking up with your best friend. Everyone talks about the pain of heartbreak between a couple but we never discuss the pain of heartbreak when losing the person you once called your best friend. A best friend is someone who knows all of your secrets and who still loves you unconditionally despite your flaws. A best friend is the one who is going to be there for you before you date that boy and afterwards. And sometimes you have to break up with them because it's what is best for you.

Nobody wants to break up with their best friend. If life was perfect, people would stay best friends til the end of time. Life, however, does not work that way. When I was younger, I had a best friend and it was her who pulled away and decided she no longer wanted to be friends. I still wish her well in life I just know I’m no longer in her journey. Our paths were supposed to disconnect at some point even though we never thought that would happen. As we grow, we learn and that causes change. Sometimes you find yourself no longer fitting with people you thought would be in your life until the end of time. And that is okay, because not all adventures were meant to last forever. The worst thing you could ever do, however, is break up with a friend and not respect them. This person has spent years by your side. You owe it to your friendship and both of yall’s past selves to treat each other with respect. That person was still a huge part of your life even if they are no longer meant to be in it.

Sometimes we will be pulled to break up with our friends because the other person wants to end the friendship. But sometimes it is us who needs to do the breaking up. People change. The only thing constant in the world is change. So, it is no surprise that one day you may no longer get along with your best friend. It's okay to be the one doing the break up. But respect them. Treat them with kindness. Distant yourself but never start a fight or try to hate them because at one point you were best friends. You did have plans to one day be roommates and be in each other’s weddings. But now, you have to do what is best for you. I'm a firm believer in if you need a break with a friend, distant yourself. Don't fight. Because distance means there is a chance you can always rekindle the friendship way into the future. We are all human and we all make mistakes. We all put the blame on someone else and when you try to blame your mistakes on a person and leave, only to find out they weren't the source of your problems, you cannot go back if you ended things rough. People tend to not be so kind when you hurt them first.

Do what is best for you. Even if that means breaking up with a friend. But remember them when they were there for you. And don't forget who talked to you all night during spring break because you were simply bored. If you're gonna break up with a best friend, prepare for it to hurt. That person meant something to you for a period of your life. Breakups are ever easy, but sometimes they’re necessary. Make your decisions wisely.