The Do and Don'ts on Being Yourself.

            The other day I came across an article on Pinterest that discussed what type of person you should be if you want to be liked by others. And for a second, I thought about how I wasn’t half the things the article said I needed to be. When you read something like that, it almost makes you feel insecure. And it almost makes you feel like you need to change who you are. But there is no psychological study that shows you have to be a certain way for people to like you. And even if there was, it shouldn’t matter because the people you will really want in your life are the people who accept you for who you are, not the person you turned into because someone wrote an inaccurate article that only showed their opinion of what they liked in a person. So, I thought I would come up with my own little article to tell you who you should be, except mine doesn’t really require you to change yourself because I don’t want you to change. I want you to embrace who you are.

Do Take Time For Yourself/Self Discovery.
How are you supposed to embrace who you are when you don’t even know who you are? The truth is, most of us don’t always know who we are because we are constantly changing. And that’s okay. But sometimes, we need to take some time to figure out who we are and what we like. Take a day, or even just an hour, to reflect on yourself. Be at peace with yourself. This could be listening to your favorite playlist in the bathtub and you realize you like a lot more rock style music instead of the pop music you used to be obsessed with. Or it could be you finding a new hobby and taking time to enjoy it. Maybe you want to start meditating or going on a spiritual journey. Whatever makes you feel most like yourself, do that and make time for it in your busy schedule.

Do Not Let Someone Else Tell You Who You Are Or Should Be. Especially Articles.
“People don’t tell you who you are. You tell them.” – Serena // Gossip Girl.
Everyone is going to have an opinion on what you should do and what you shouldn’t. They’re  going to have an opinion on who you should be and who you shouldn’t be. That is okay. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but you’re also entitled to not having to listen to their opinion. If anyone is going to create you or destroy you, let it be you and only you who has that power. You can be whatever you want or even who ever you want. As long as it is you who builds you from scratch. People can influence you and inspire you. But let that be just the paint color on the walls to the house you built.

Do Find Your Style.
This might be hard if fashion has no interest to you, but fashion is a big part of who you are because it is how you represent yourself to the world. If you have no interest in clothes and you could live in jeans and t shirts, then allow that to be your style. If you want to wear dresses and skirts but instead you settle for jeans and a t shirt, then change your style. Whatever kind of clothes you like, embrace it. Let that be apart of you. Your appearance is apart of your first impression to others. Make sure it is how you like it.

Do Not Try to Be Someone Else.
It’s okay to have idols and look up to people. It’s okay to have that favorite character in a book or tv show and wish you were like them. It is not okay to try to fully become them. You can take inspiration from others but you should always modify it so that it becomes more personal, more you. If you like how a certain celebrity or blogger dresses, then figure out what exactly it is about their wardrobe that fascinates you and add your own spin to it. If there is a certain characteristic you admire in someone else such as being smart or witty, then work on gaining that skill while still remaining true to yourself. Don’t try to completely change yourself to where you become the person you were looking up to.

Do Try New Things.
I know some people have social anxiety and swear off leaving their house unless it is completely necessary. But, in order to live up to your full potential, you need to venture out. Go to new restaurants. Go to that cool study cafĂ© that you drive past everyday and keep saying one day you’ll go there. You don’t have to venture far as long as you are trying to get out of your comfort zone. You don’t have to go to a club or a concert on your first night out. Take it slow, but continue to try new things. Even if it is just a new walk to class or trying out a new hobby. Find out what things make you feel the happiest and comfiest without being completely in your comfort zone.

Do Not Try to Be Everyone’s Cup of Tea.

Not everyone is going to like you. That’s fine. You’re not going to like every person walking this earth either. That being said, I know what it feels to want someone to like you and they just don’t. It doesn’t even have to be someone you have a crush on. Sometimes we will want to be friends with someone so bad but they continue to push us away. Don’t go trying to change yourself because someone didn’t like you. Any true friend, any friend that really deserves to be in your life, will not dislike you. You will find people to be friends with that will transform your life. Wait for those people to come around.

             In the end, there is no right or wrong way on how to be yourself as long as you are trying to be who you really are. Life is a jumbled mess and I know it can be hard. Sometimes we lose sight of ourselves, but we always have the opportunity to re-find ourselves.